I’ve learned a few truths so far this summer. Not all of them have been good, but some have. If nothing else, it’s all helped inform some of the messages I need to make sure I convey to my daughter as she gets older. These are things that I wish I had realized and come to accept much sooner in life.
Not everyone is going to like you, no matter what you say or do, so learn early on how to cut the wheat from the chaff.
Not everyone is going to like it when you openly voice negative or minority opinions. Express them anyway.
Some people will misconstrue your words and actions. Sometimes it is intentional, other times it is not. Plan accordingly.
Passive-aggressive people exist, and there is nothing you can really do about that except learn how to cope. Their tendencies are often deep-seated.
Sometimes it’s you. But, as patterns emerge, you will one day realize that sometimes, it really isn’t you. It’s them.
Not everyone fights fairly. How you decide to handle that is up to you, but self-preservation, ultimately, must be a priority.
Books can fill voids quite nicely. Especially when you feel alone. There may be times when you read lots of books. That’s OK.
New friends can come about in the most unexpected places. They will validate you in ways that you didn’t even know you were missing.
It’s OK to do things alone. In fact, it’s important to do things alone. Be comfortable with yourself.
Loneliness is really hard. But continually giving a piece of yourself away unrequited is even harder.
Do it for yourself. Don’t wait for someone to cheer you on. Be your own loudest cheerleader. Find the reward in the doing, not the pleasing.
Take lots of pictures. There is much goodness right at your own two feet.
What about you? What important truths have you learned so far this summer?
Copyright (c) 2014 Kristen M. Ploetz
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